I recently was watching a vlog by one of my favorite vloggers Kimonica, and she brought up some issues I long forgot. The rejection of being a full figured person that always seem to fall into the "friendship zone" of a relationship instead of actually being in a relationship. How do you feel about that? Is having a relationship with a full figured person embarrassing to the people in relationships with them? Or is it just an insecurity that we have to get over? I think that's the question many of us pose when entering into a physical or mental relationship with a potential significant other.
Have you ever been that really cool guy or girl friend that is always there to listen to your friends problems and maybe offer a few kind or words of wisdom? If it ever went pass a casual friendship, how did that make you feel? Did your bond get stronger or did it sour?
The concept of "love" is scary no matter the person that your interested in, but before it gets to that point most of us start off as...yeah you guessed it FRIENDS! On the flip side someone could be interested in a plus size person, but could be embarrassed to be seen with you; honestly I think I've encountered that version a time or two on my life. Thankfully I've never been aware of it until after the fact.
*I got a story to tell:
When I was a teenager I was so brain washed by what society thought beauty was that I never put myself in the category of beautiful. So it was a natural thing for me to be oblivious to someone who liked me; I would just write it off as "just being nice." Later another friend would tell me what happened and I'll never forget what she said. She said" he likes you but he won't talk to you like that because he's afraid of what his boys will think." you would think that was devastating, but it wasn't it's exactly what I expected, so i didn't give it a second thought. And that's sad but true. Have you experienced something similar?
So, in saying that how much is too much for you to handle? And what message are you conveying to the world, think about it.
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Thank you! I didn't blossom until HS too, that's when I found my voice so to speak. It's crazy how this is sort of the norm for us, but I'm happy that we came out of that way of thinking, unfortunately the world hasn't quite caught up with us yet. But, it's cool cause now we have to step up and set the trend now and I feel like its finally happened.
ReplyDeleteBy the way,I wanted to say that I love you tutorials and you actually helped me to better understand eye shadows and how to play around with them, and that it's ok to do your own thang; so thank you!
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