Curvylicious 101: What Curvy Girls & Lovers Should Know

 It has come to my attention that we are living in a world were men who love plus size women often lie about their fondness for a fluffy woman; and some women refuse to believe they are plus size, also the women that understand their curves are reluctant to accentuate their curves for fear of not being good enough to attract a man's attention. What do we do about these issues surrounding 'Big Love'? That was what I was thinking when I decided write this article. It's crazy to me that even in today's world where we (as a plus size community) has conquered so much when it comes to love, sex, relationships, and what have you; that we are still subject to the same old society norms that surround the curvier sexes.

 Speaking from experience, and that of some friends; I think I've encountered every type of man that is a "Fat Lover".


 1. There's the: I"ll be cool in your face, but won't say two words to you in front of my friends guy.
  
2. It's the: I'll tease you about your weight, but I still want to SMASH (have sex with you) guy.  

3. The closet 'fat admirer': this the guy who has a petite or skinny girlfriend whom he goes out with and is a good show piece on his arm, but really wants to go out with her plus size friend. This guy has also disguised himself as best friend to the plumper woman and runs to her with problems he may have in his relationships. She becomes a substitute girlfriend, mother, Wife, and Confidant to him, he might get to smash (have sex) this so called 'best friend'; but will quickly dismiss her when he is done rebounding from his heartache.

 4. We have the: ain't nothing better than a big girl guy (totally self explanatory).

5. The 'one hit wonder': this is the dude who wants to be with a big girl for the first time to see how the sex will compare to that of the smaller woman, then he turns into #3 the 'Closet Fat Admirer' or C.F.A.

6. Is the guy who is only a friend who doesn't see a plus size friend as a sexual interest at all (though she may want more than a friendship).

7. Winter time boo, this is the guy who want to shack up and mooch off a plus size woman through the winter time. He has no job, doesn't go to school, and no ambition. He just want to be taken in and taken care of until the spring or when it gets warm outside and the weather gets nice. And lastly... 


8. The guy who finds plus size women totally disgusting, but won't say it to your face. 

With all the obstacles that surround us, now wonder most of us are confused about situations that can arise and WRONG signals that men send out. Also, about how we plus size women respond to those signals, and also to put to bed so to speak about how we as women feel about ourselves in regards to these types of situations and men we may encounter that can play a part in our point of views about our lives, and the people we allow in them. So to help out my sisters, I've come up with some ways to tell men about the themselves; while helping my sisters to understand why they allow some of these situations to occur.

 Let's start with the MEN in our lives (and the one's we can't seem to get rid of)!

1. Guys, we are no longer in high school where if you pretend to not like a plus size woman; and go out of your way to make her feel uncomfortable, then assume that it can be interpreted as you really like her. FALSE! when you act like that we really think you don't like us, so to avoid an uncomfortable situation we stay away from you! That's not sexy or a turn on its repellent.

2. Don't attempt to use a plus size woman as a fall back or runner's up to the girl that your really interested in. All your doing is creating unnecessary DRAMA. Leading someone on for your own selfish reason is already messed up, then to add insult to injury makes it 10x worse; just don't do it!

3. Plus size women are not your personal therapists, we may have great insight into somethings; but we cannot solve your problems for you. If you get yourself into a situation that has come back to bite you in your ass, be a grown man a fix it. Stop running to women who act as your caregiver to fix it for you.

4. We are NOT Winter time boo's! Don't seek out a plus size woman for the Winter months, then drop her as soon as Spring time comes around. That's not only messed up, but can really hurt that woman's sense of self  and/or self worth. What if we did that to you?

5. We are not toys! You can't pick us up and play with us when its convenient for you.

6. If a woman changes her number and move six times without telling you, that means she doesn't want you in her life. Take the hint and stalk someone else.

For the LADIES!

1.  In sex, don't let the guy think he's moving mountains, when really he's not even  in the right zip code. In the end your the one losing out not him; he's already got his rocks off.

2. If you let him treat you like a side chick, than eventually that's what you will become. There is nothing wrong with wanting more from a relationship and attempting to establish just that. If he can't give it to you, move on.




 3. Are you running an outreach program for lazy ass men? Then you are your allowing them to run over you, while you cook, clean, work, go to school, or raise children while they watch you?  A man about his happy home and concern for his woman would share in the burden of these situations, not contribute to them.

4. If you love you, then others will too! You get what you put out, if your always putting yourself down then its a good chance you will attract people who will do the same. In the process you can possibly push good people away from you, because they simply don't want to be around negative people.

5. Not everyone who says they are your friend actually is. I know we've all heard this before but its as TRUE now as is has always been. It applies to men, women, family, and  friends. Hard Fact, some people befriend a plus size girl because they pose no threat to them (other women) or so they think.  Often women treat other women worst than a man ever could, when a plus size girl goes to the club we are there to party and relax like everyone else not to be a purse holder, zoo keeper, or designated driver. Ladies, take these types of people out of your life.

6. As I've said before in past blog posts, you should not ever be ashamed of who you are. Don't hide all your lusciousness for fear that you will not be attractive, love your flab. If your not trying to diet, and are ok with you; then embrace your look, change it if you feel the need, or just try to step out of your comfort zone. Know your truth, no one knows what or who you are but you. Don't let anyone dictate your purpose in this world. If you don't know, then allow yourself to take the risk to find out and explore possibilities.

I hope I was able to shine some light on plus size relationships and the situations we can somehow find ourselves in. If you have a subject you want to suggest or something that you have an issue with that you want to discuss please leave it in the comments section. Stay beautiful, Plus Size, and Sexy!

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Expanding Fashion Plus: Taking a new direction on the Business of Curves!

Hello my darlings! Being an independent writer I wear many hats. Recently I've been researching ways to grow my business. I've decided to put my degrees to use and get involved in:

- Hosting events

- Speaking engagements

- Creative directing/assisting

- and Plus Size Personal Styling

Although, plus size fashion blogging is my priority; I would like explore what it means to be a full figured business woman. In all honesty it's always been a dream of mine to expand Fashion Plus, and really be a positive voice on full figured fashion; whether its the good, bad, or the ugly. In the beginning of my blogging career I've always made it known that fashion is just the tip of the iceberg, and that women (especially full figured women) have different levels, and situations that if your not plus size won't be understood. 

My goal is to reach the women who like me felt like no one understood their hopes, dreams, aspirations, and
of course their sorrows. If I can reach them through speaking I will do that. If I can make them feel better by being a personal stylist and revamping their wardrobe; then so be it. I want to contribute to an industry that helped me find my niche as well as my voice.

Please support me in my ventures by helping me put the word out. My talents extend beyond writing and I'd like to explore them in the plus size business world! 

For any inquires email me at: Fabulouslyp@gmail.com

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P.H.A.T. In The City Meet & Greet Networking Event

Hi Beautiful People! Today I share my experience I had at an networking event in NYC held at Fashion 40 Lounge hosted by Thick Madams Inc & Plump Goddesses. Coming together in a first time collaboration, members from both parties traveled from as far away as Chicago to New York in order to build strong relationships and connections with each other to further endorse plus size business people, companies, artists, designers, photographers and of course BLOGGERS!

I had so much fun at this event! Usually, I might have been a bit nervous in a room full of strangers; and it can be hard to go up to someone and introduce yourself and brand over and over again. At this event I didn't feel that way at all, I was totally comfortable and I felt like I was in a room with old friends rather than new faces; that's how welcome I felt. I do a lot of networking that is done through social media or attending fashion shows; this is the first event I've attended that it's only purpose was to network within the plus size fashion industry. Present at this event were people from diverse backgrounds of the full figured fashion industry ready to make connections, and expand business ventures. I felt camaraderie around people who are in the same business as myself, and I invite anyone who has never attended a networking event to do so, as an independent  business owner it will be one of the best
decisions you can make.

The ladies of Thick Madams Inc & Plump Goddesses has done a remarkable job setting the bar high, while bringing together people that can connect with each other and grow business together to reach a common goal of bringing attention and notoriety to the plus size industry. People involved in this industry are not just business people, but also consumers; we each know what is lacking in the fashion world concerning the fuller bodies of men and women. This event is the first step in building stronger relationships with each other, I for one cannot wait for the next step to take root and grow.

PICTURE TIME!

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Kurvacious Boutique Model Competition: Who will be the face of Kurvacious Boutique?

 Forget size 2, move over size 10; plus size fashion is making its presence known in a big way! How? By giving plus size beauties a platform to rock their curves, and represent their individual style through Kurvacious Boutique's plus size model completion. In their search to find the woman who would embody all that a Kurvacious woman represents, a model competitor was held; and on Saturday, July 27th the chosen finalist strutted with determination, sashayed with ease, and struck the fiercest of poses to capture, engage, and fascinate the judges and audience members alike.

Rehearsals

But wait! We can't have a model competition without fist setting the stage. The competition was held at Harlem Prep Charter School in NYC, in their event hall called The Crystal Room. The space was already amazing upon entry with glass window which surrounded the room; giving guests a view of the city, but was
further enhanced by creating an intimate setting complete with dim mood lighting, candles on each table. In the middle of the room sat a spotlit catwalk like area in which the models descended upon. With a DJ, spoken word artists, singers, a bar, and venders lined against the gigantic glass window this show had everything needed to create a lasting experience (with the air

Perfection isn't an option, it's a necessity

conditioning on full blast, I was in heaven). 

Together with my colleagues at Size Matters Photography, we soaked in the ambiance and shot amazing photos! Attending this event was the second time in my life where I saw so many beautiful, fashionable, plus size women on the catwalk as well as in the audience. At times the fashion stayed on the runway, and stopped at the audience; but in this instance it continued to make its presence known among the beauties that I was sitting near.

Plus size boutiques are few are far between when it comes to providing a full figured woman with an array of great fashions, and lets face it how many of them give plus size women (real plus size women, not padded bras, air brushed or but lifts. But real women who will be actually wearing the clothing instead of just modeling it.) a chance to show confidence and personality? I don't know who you are thinking of, but I can defiantly count Kurvacious Boutique as one of them. Another thing that I was impressed with, was the fact that the women are women who look like me or someone that I know; and to me that really came across as the designer really being focused on appealing to the masses of women who will be utilizing their boutique. Also, the different age groups of the women modeling caught my attention mainly because it implied that age doesn't determine beauty or a sense of style and that every full figured women will be represented, and that
level of comfort was great to have. Most plus size stores or boutiques only cater to one type of age range leaving the others lost in the fashion ABYSS, But with Kurvacious Boutique I saw versatility; which was refreshing to me.

When it comes to the models; these ladies where not only about the competition, but the business of fashion in all. These women did something not many have the courage to do, so on behalf of myself and colleagues at Size Matters Photography; we want to congratulate all the ladies in the competition, and a special congratulations to Techla Nesbitt the winner and new face of Kurvacious Boutique! And a special thank you to all the people who made it possible to have this event!


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Enough with the talk...ON WITH THE FASHION!

ME!

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