Curvylicious 101: What Curvy Girls & Lovers Should Know

 It has come to my attention that we are living in a world were men who love plus size women often lie about their fondness for a fluffy woman; and some women refuse to believe they are plus size, also the women that understand their curves are reluctant to accentuate their curves for fear of not being good enough to attract a man's attention. What do we do about these issues surrounding 'Big Love'? That was what I was thinking when I decided write this article. It's crazy to me that even in today's world where we (as a plus size community) has conquered so much when it comes to love, sex, relationships, and what have you; that we are still subject to the same old society norms that surround the curvier sexes.

 Speaking from experience, and that of some friends; I think I've encountered every type of man that is a "Fat Lover".


 1. There's the: I"ll be cool in your face, but won't say two words to you in front of my friends guy.
  
2. It's the: I'll tease you about your weight, but I still want to SMASH (have sex with you) guy.  

3. The closet 'fat admirer': this the guy who has a petite or skinny girlfriend whom he goes out with and is a good show piece on his arm, but really wants to go out with her plus size friend. This guy has also disguised himself as best friend to the plumper woman and runs to her with problems he may have in his relationships. She becomes a substitute girlfriend, mother, Wife, and Confidant to him, he might get to smash (have sex) this so called 'best friend'; but will quickly dismiss her when he is done rebounding from his heartache.

 4. We have the: ain't nothing better than a big girl guy (totally self explanatory).

5. The 'one hit wonder': this is the dude who wants to be with a big girl for the first time to see how the sex will compare to that of the smaller woman, then he turns into #3 the 'Closet Fat Admirer' or C.F.A.

6. Is the guy who is only a friend who doesn't see a plus size friend as a sexual interest at all (though she may want more than a friendship).

7. Winter time boo, this is the guy who want to shack up and mooch off a plus size woman through the winter time. He has no job, doesn't go to school, and no ambition. He just want to be taken in and taken care of until the spring or when it gets warm outside and the weather gets nice. And lastly... 


8. The guy who finds plus size women totally disgusting, but won't say it to your face. 

With all the obstacles that surround us, now wonder most of us are confused about situations that can arise and WRONG signals that men send out. Also, about how we plus size women respond to those signals, and also to put to bed so to speak about how we as women feel about ourselves in regards to these types of situations and men we may encounter that can play a part in our point of views about our lives, and the people we allow in them. So to help out my sisters, I've come up with some ways to tell men about the themselves; while helping my sisters to understand why they allow some of these situations to occur.

 Let's start with the MEN in our lives (and the one's we can't seem to get rid of)!

1. Guys, we are no longer in high school where if you pretend to not like a plus size woman; and go out of your way to make her feel uncomfortable, then assume that it can be interpreted as you really like her. FALSE! when you act like that we really think you don't like us, so to avoid an uncomfortable situation we stay away from you! That's not sexy or a turn on its repellent.

2. Don't attempt to use a plus size woman as a fall back or runner's up to the girl that your really interested in. All your doing is creating unnecessary DRAMA. Leading someone on for your own selfish reason is already messed up, then to add insult to injury makes it 10x worse; just don't do it!

3. Plus size women are not your personal therapists, we may have great insight into somethings; but we cannot solve your problems for you. If you get yourself into a situation that has come back to bite you in your ass, be a grown man a fix it. Stop running to women who act as your caregiver to fix it for you.

4. We are NOT Winter time boo's! Don't seek out a plus size woman for the Winter months, then drop her as soon as Spring time comes around. That's not only messed up, but can really hurt that woman's sense of self  and/or self worth. What if we did that to you?

5. We are not toys! You can't pick us up and play with us when its convenient for you.

6. If a woman changes her number and move six times without telling you, that means she doesn't want you in her life. Take the hint and stalk someone else.

For the LADIES!

1.  In sex, don't let the guy think he's moving mountains, when really he's not even  in the right zip code. In the end your the one losing out not him; he's already got his rocks off.

2. If you let him treat you like a side chick, than eventually that's what you will become. There is nothing wrong with wanting more from a relationship and attempting to establish just that. If he can't give it to you, move on.




 3. Are you running an outreach program for lazy ass men? Then you are your allowing them to run over you, while you cook, clean, work, go to school, or raise children while they watch you?  A man about his happy home and concern for his woman would share in the burden of these situations, not contribute to them.

4. If you love you, then others will too! You get what you put out, if your always putting yourself down then its a good chance you will attract people who will do the same. In the process you can possibly push good people away from you, because they simply don't want to be around negative people.

5. Not everyone who says they are your friend actually is. I know we've all heard this before but its as TRUE now as is has always been. It applies to men, women, family, and  friends. Hard Fact, some people befriend a plus size girl because they pose no threat to them (other women) or so they think.  Often women treat other women worst than a man ever could, when a plus size girl goes to the club we are there to party and relax like everyone else not to be a purse holder, zoo keeper, or designated driver. Ladies, take these types of people out of your life.

6. As I've said before in past blog posts, you should not ever be ashamed of who you are. Don't hide all your lusciousness for fear that you will not be attractive, love your flab. If your not trying to diet, and are ok with you; then embrace your look, change it if you feel the need, or just try to step out of your comfort zone. Know your truth, no one knows what or who you are but you. Don't let anyone dictate your purpose in this world. If you don't know, then allow yourself to take the risk to find out and explore possibilities.

I hope I was able to shine some light on plus size relationships and the situations we can somehow find ourselves in. If you have a subject you want to suggest or something that you have an issue with that you want to discuss please leave it in the comments section. Stay beautiful, Plus Size, and Sexy!

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Work Outfit of the day: Plus Size Working Sexy!

Hello Dolls! I have discovered something amazing the other day while I was searching for a phone case and multitasking everything else in my life, I found cases for my IPhone on Amazon.com, and I stumbled on a beautiful blouse by PacificPlex. The top I'm going to review for you is a Brush Stroked Floral Satin Sleeveless Blouse with crystals in the middle of the flower print, the top I ordered is in white and black in  juniors plus size 5x. I know the size seems huge, but its not the juniors equivalent is about a size 22-24 in a women's size; so this was about right for me.

TIP: When ordering on the internet for any clothing, always check the size chart. Its easy to look as the sizes listed and choose the one that you would if you were in a store. Making a size choice this way could easily fool you, Why? because you don't know where the company is located and nine times out of ten the size equivalent in another country is different than where your from. So what fits as a size 24 in one place, can be a size 18 in another. If you live in the U.S. always refer to that sizing chart.

Front and back view

Though, the color your seeing is not the color I ordered; I wanted to give you a front and back view of the top when its not being worn. The lower part of the blouse in all spandex, which is great for a full figured woman, the top of the blouse is satin and it does fit a bit snug, but the back has some lycra to allow for a bit more stretching room. The neck has a halter inspired collar of the same satin material. When I tied the satin around my neck it made to feel a bit more snug than the first time, but not at all uncomfortable. To make the top more work appropriate I put on a short stretch shrug to hide the open back and give my arms some coverage.  Overall, I give this blouse a four star rating (out of five stars)!
This top wears well and I felt sexy and beautiful in it, if you guys were to buy this top from Amazon.com you will defiantly be happy!

Tip:  if you have big breasts the fit may be a little more snug on you then me so please be every mindful of that.

PICTURE TIME!

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CONFESSIONS of a Plus Size Fashion Blogger: My decision to go NATURAL!

Hi beautiful people! I want to talk to you guys about why I decided to go natural, but let's start from the beginning...I don't remember exactly when I my hair relaxed for the first time, but if I had to guess I would say about age 6 or 7. The first time, my mom let her friend put the relaxer in my hair for her because she had to work and she wanted my hair neat for school. Well, this woman put it in; but she put the WRONG relaxer in my head! I know what your thinking...your thinking how did she put the wrong one in my hair? Good question, it's because she wanted to use the kiddie relaxer my mom bought me to put in her daughters hair. NOT COOL right? And the relaxer she put in my hair was an adult Dark and Lovely; waaaay too strong for my thin, virgin hair! So, you know moms was upset I don't know what happened to them as friends after that, but I do know she NEVER let her put her hands in my hair ever again. Luckily, only a small patch of my hair came out, but she did my hair in such a way that no one could tell anything was wrong. Thus, starting my up and down love affair with relaxers.

I was never that girl that relaxes her hair every three months, honestly I only did it every six months(twice a

year), and in between I occasionally went to a beauty salon. But even relaxing twice a year gave me lots of breakage, also after my hair began to grow out from the relaxer I didn't  wrapping my hair at night; this also contributed split ends, breakage, and un-even length.

In my search to find myself (hair wise) I cut, colored, streaked, fried, dyed, payed to the side, curled, braided, and weaved (very little) my hair to find my identity. And every single one of the mentioned thing s we not to my benefit. First off, my hair is naturally long. Problem is its thin so if I wanted a styled ponytail I needed a hair piece or what we call in the hood a track.  Really, my problem was that every girl around me had short hair that those were the type of styles they did that were cute, so I wanted to be cute as well; only my hair could do all those styles despite me trying anyway. 

So, after more than a decade of relaxing I've decided to go natural. To me it's very freeing! When it rains I don't have to wear a hat, and use an umbrella to keep my hair dry, or run and duck under onings. I've also experienced a lot of hair growth, shine, and strength due to my decision for natural hair. Please check out my

YOUTUBE page to watch my video on natural hair called Natural hair: my nightly routine for advice. I think because I've grown up and I'm no longer trying to find my identity that now I'm able to let go of some constraints the were put on me for being plus size, black, a woman, that I can now just LIVE; that's the best feeling ever!

Don't let ads like this make you believe that this is what you need to do to be beautiful. It really doesn't matter if you relax, perm, or go natural with your hair as long as you are comfortable with the health, and strength or your mane.

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CONFESSIONS of a Plus Size Fashion Blogger: Don't judge me at first glance, Get to know me first

Hello Beautiful People! I've been thinking of creating this CONFESSIONS series for a while but I wasn't exactly sure of how to approach the subject. So I'm going to speak from my heart and hope that you guys can understand where I'm coming from. In my other posts I gave you a glimpse of what is was like to grow up plus size in this series I won't give peaks, but the whole picture.

Thank you guys so much for rocking out with me and supporting me on my blog and YouTube as well as other social media outlets. Today the blinders come off, and if you were never plus size after I'm done you will know about it.

Uniquely me!

The first thing I want to say is that being Plus Size or Full Figured doesn't mean you are not healthy, nor does it mean that you are. When I started blogging my purpose was and STILL is to get the message out there that WE ARE BEAUTIFUL TOO to sum it up. But the question really is why does that message have to keep being re-iterated over and over? I think it's because we've been painted as being ugly, fat, nobody cares about you for so long that it starts to become us, we except what other people think we are and live with it; I was NEVER that type. I have lost MANY a friend because I would allow them to put me in that category of: Oh your the fat girl in the group(Cause as you can see, your girl is FAR from ugly) so you hold the purse. This is usually the part where I would shout obscenities, but I'm going to keep it classy today.

So, because of that its my mission to let my sistas (and brothas) know that I understand, I've been through it too.

I've been through so many different phases trying to figure out who I am and what I want to achieve, so I think my experience is what makes it easy for me to say some of the things that will come to this series. The first thing that was the most OBVIOUS was that I had to stop looking for validation. It didn't happen on purpose, it was more like I was drafted into in but it happened all the same.When I was younger, I use to think that if I wasn't "Perfect" that I wouldn't be able to compete in the same arena with people (women) who had what I deemed better features than I did. So, in my mind if I had a scar, didn't say the right thing, made a miscalculation or misstep that I would not be redeemable. So, being a typical GEMINI I went( and still do!) HARD on everything I set out to do. For me failure is NOT an option. After a while, I asked myself; "Am I doing this for me, or for the approval of other people?"

I changed my way of thinking, I learned to except me. It was hard some days is harder than others, but I
know that I WILL succeed because I believe in me and it doesn't matter what the critics say, hell they need me to stay employed. My greatest love outside of my family is doing this blogging, writing, and being honest with you guys! Full figured fashion is one aspect of me, in Confessions were going to go a little bit deeper.

As this series continues I will touch on different scenarios and situations, hopefully you guys can relate to it; if not please try to understand it. Life isn't about always trying to get it right, but living it right for as long as you can.









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Plus Size Essentials: Must haves for spring/summer

 Hi Beautiful People! In my search for great plus size fashion for the spring/summer I've come across some great finds that I wanted to share with you guys! Everything you'll see are all plus sized or at plus size retailers. Tell me what you think of each of them? Are they FIERCE or FAIL?

So loving this Braid in Manhattan necklace from Fashion to Figure.

First Braid Stretch Bracelet from Fashion to Figure.

 Flair Des Lis Ponte Tank Top from Fashion to Figure.

 Winning Points Dot Print Tank Top.

Swim Dress from Old Navy.

Women's plus Slub Knit Halter cover up from Old Navy.

Forever 21 Extended calf boot.

Forever 21 Studded tank

Fitted Blazer from Forever 21

Torrid Scarlet Peep Toe Heel

Cream and Black Dorsey Heel from Torrid.

JC Penney Worthington Belted Glam Dress.

Worthington Square Neck Color Block Dress from JC Penney.

Monif C Bridgette Cape Black Dress in Nude

Steve Madden Dafni Bootie.







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Sexy turns Plus Size: My shopping trip to Torrid

Hello Dolls! I recently went on a shopping trip to Torrid. For those of you who don't know Torrid is a trendy plus size store more for twenty somethings; originally it was for people who are into Gothic type clothes, but they have branched out and really hit the mark on what a full figured women that's in her twenties likes to wear & that she wants to be sexy and trendy; instead of matronly and in bad taste. so here are a few photos of some outfits I tried on and bought.

This top I wore to work, it felt great against my skin and I felt good in it. I think it flattered my curves without revealing too much.

This is the back of it. I thought that the back being out would be too revealing but it turned out to be PERFECT!
















A better picture from the front.

This is the same top in a shimmery black color, ok I'm one of those girls that will buy the same top in different colors; because it can be worn to different occasions. Like this one for instance can be worn to a club, or party whereas the other one would be only for the office type setting. With this top I can be more playful and dress it up with booties or a high heel and accessories to give it an evening or club look.

I love this top! This is what I call multipurpose. I can were it to school or work; and dress it up to go out with my girls! It has a open section over the chest, and has a piece of fabric across the neck. I think I love this top because of the chest area. If  you don't know me I love to push my breasts up and attempt to give myself a more hour glass figure. I am plus size, but I have lost a little weight and I'm shaping up nicely. This top shows my shape coming in.

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Usually, I don't like dresses; and that's because I always felt awkward in them. But every once in a while I find a dress that gives me the look & feel that I want. Though not the greatest picture; this dress is gorgeous on me. It's free flowing across my stomach so I can hide it a bit, I'm going to pair it with a short wrap to frame my top and make it look better or cleaner shaped, a pair of booties to give me some height (because I'm a shorty,lol), and a pair of fish net type tights(like the one's below) to finish it off.

These would be what I have in mind to make sexy legs, even SEXIER!








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