The Golden Globes Vs. The Golden Rule

Picture this; it's the day of The Golden Globes, your either walking the red carpet, taking pictures, or viewing at home. All the stars that graced the carpet with their appearance are posing in their designer tuxedos, suits, and dresses. And coming into view is plus size, black woman known for her portrayal of an overweight teen from a film made in 2009. She is wearing a gown made by a designer who traditionally doesn't make outfits for plus sizes. The gown doesn't flatter her figure (not even a little bit). What do you do? Talk about her like everyone else, bashing the outfit choice?  Or perhaps you should try to dig a bit deeper?

ON FIRST LOOK:

YES! The best thing I can say about the dress is that the color was the only choice about it that worked   For Ms. Sidibe. The rest as most of you know was not a complete disaster, but more like hard on the eyes. It showed all the problem areas instead of masking them, the fabric was unstructured and sort of hung on her body instead of draping, and lastly, there was no use of control under garments to hold all a woman's jiggly bits from jiggling. While, all that is true you are missing the 'Golden Rule' of all press related events. ALL publicity is good publicity! 

ON SECOND LOOK:

When you look closer what Ms. Gabourey Sidibe actually did is make sure she will continue to be employed for the next upcoming fiscal year. How? I'll explain. Who was the most talked about person on the carpet? Who is being talked about in all the blogs? Answer: Gabourey Sidibe. 

Oops! I did it again!

Has anyone noticed that every time she makes a 'Red Carpet' appearance she is either praised or ridiculed?
Also every time that happens she is in another movie, tv show, or guest staring on shows like Project Runway. Not bad for a woman that a critic once said that the only role she would be good for is one similar to the 2009 movie Precious: which is based on the novel Push by
Sapphire. 

Gabourey should be looked at as exactly what she is...A business woman, who told everyone through a tweet that she will be crying (sarcasm, of course!) in a private plane on her way to her dream job (I'm paraphrasing). So basically she uses all the negative attention as good press to keep her name, talent, and above all BRAND relevant. KUDOS! That's smart thinking on her part. Not only that; she brought recognition to a designer, whether it be negative or not it is FREE PUBLICITY. Like I stated earlier ALL publicity is good publicity because it keeps a person relevant. 

The infamous tweet

As far as Melisa McCarthy is concerned, she look good in her dress; though she
played it safe by wearing black. Everybody knows that EVERYBODY looks good in black, and that black is a fat girls best friend. Also, the only reason why she was mentioned is to compare her to Gabourey Sidibe because they were the only two heavy set women attending the event. Even with the comparison Gabourey still received more press than Ms. McCarthy.

Ok, it may not be as strategic as I see it; but it doesn't change the fact that it's all relatively TRUE! An actress considered to be a ONE HIT WONDER is proving herself to be a working, professional. What can the critics say to that? I say, ma do your thing!  I will continue to watch your movies, tv shows, or whatever; just like everyone else. But, try to stay away from the unflattering dresses! Show that haters how a big girl can really dress! I don't care how big my rolls (of fat) may be, they will be the SEXIEST rolls ever to grace the pages of a magazine, movies, show, or RED CARPET! 

As always stay BEAUTIFUL, CONFIDENT, & ABOVE ALL SEXY! 

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The Diary of a FAT FASHIONISTA: I don't have anything to wear!

Hello! Lovely, Fluffy, Divas! In the Confessions series we addressed plus size lifestyles that included careers, love, relationships, mental, physical, & emotional aspects of being FAT in a skinny world. In this series, were going to focus more on the journey plus size women take through fashion and coming into their own. Though it's talked about all throughout this blog, this series will be geared for women like myself who have a hard time staying on trends, keeping up with the seasons must have 'IT' item, and everything in between due to the fact that we are slightly heavier than the more solid plus size women. In other words, we might have a little extra in our tummy pockets then other women. This is for the extra meaty sistas of the world, I got you!

I've been going through my closet trying desperately to find something different to wear; The worst feeling in the world is to realize you have absolutely nothing or that you've worn everything in there at least more
than a dozen times. What's a girl to do! Ok ladies, I'm not the only fluffy woman who's thighs rub and because of that your pants start to show wearing in that area; so I know the pain of having to fix a good pair of pants because of it. Also, we truly get tired of mixing and matching the same items over and over. If any of you are like me and crave variety  then we know the same old wardrobe just won't due.

So, whats a big girl to do? First things first, 'New Year' new revelations! Use your connections or make some if you don't have any. Be a little more friendly when going into a store to make a purchase. Become friends with the sales people, in doing that you will find out when new items are coming in; or when something goes on sale. These people will become your fashion insiders; telling you what you need to know.

Next, though you may know this already shop clearence, not just any clearence ALL clearance. We all have our favorite spots to shop, but try to branch out. Go to stores you wouldn't  normally go to find a deal. Basically be more flexable, just because a store doesn't traditionally sell plus sizes doesn't mean they don't have wardrobe pieces that can work with you style. for example, I use to avoid J.C. Penny like the plague because what they offered in plus sizes was hiddious! Some garments fell apart in the wash, lost color, or stretched out. Because of that i stopped shopping there, now I visit a little more often and stick to  the items I now would look good, fit, and above all LAST! I will never find a a pair of pants there to fit me, but at least I can find a good, inexpensive top. 

Finally, ladies we have to get over the fear of the dressing room. This is the place nightmares are made of. I remember when I use to be so scared to go into the dressing room and be disappointed that my heart would pound has I opened the door. Dramatic? Yes. The truth? Hell yes! I don't know if I've completely gotten over the anxiety, but I do know that I've learned how to not let it strike fear in me.

Have you taken something in the dressing room and you were sure it would fit or that you would look good in it, only to find out that it doesn't even come close to what your imagination thought it would look like? Yeah, I've done that too. So, whats the point? How is this going to help you? I'll tell you how. Try not to be upset by the fact that whatever the item is that is doesn't flatter your body, recognize the fact that your found out in the dressing room and not at home, work, or a night out. It's the worse when your busy throughout your day and you have a wardrobe malfunction. So, think of it as saving you from spending money that would be better spent on something that would actually look good. 

ARE PLUS SIZE WOMEN VAIN?

Ladies, lets face it. Although we are plus size we are very vain in a way when it comes to letting the world know that we hold ourselves at a high standard even if they don't. We view it as a shame if your plus sized and not well maintained, in that we may try to squeeze into clothes that have long stop fitting; THIS MUST STOP! In our vanity, we refuse to see that though we're plus size weight has been gained making the size were are, become the size we were. Stop buying things in your old size in an attempt to save face with the fact that your maintain your size instead of growing out of it. Try making positive changes in your diet. Look, I'm no nutritionist but I have the same problem and I try to make healthier choices as to not grow out of my clothes. We all know the bigger you are the more money the clothes cost, but allowing your muffin top to take center attention over your personality, style, and essence of being is a far

bigger crime. 

I'm not therapist, but I call it like it is. I talk about things that have happened to me, or I've gone through myself. Shopping isn't always a quick therapy session, but if your going out to the malls to find something to wear; don't bring baggage with you. If you do, all you will bring how with you is more baggage than what you had the first time. Let the weight of finding something to wear go (no pun intended) in order to find something that fits. 

Stay plus size, sexy, and confident!

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