Conversations Inside My Head

So, I'm randomly trying to decide if I should go the gym today or get in some much needed writing for my second book. That's when the thought hit me. At the event last weekend in Newark I met a woman who is very much into fitness, and talking to people about it. NOTHING is wrong with that, but I do think her delivery needs improving.

So I kind of took that as her insinuating that I am glorifying and unhealthy lifestyle by writing a book about full figured women in the fashion industry. I'm a lover of fashion and I like to look good when ever I go somewhere, so yes fashion is a huge part of being confident and about being a woman comfortable in my skin.  So yes I want to have things that are well-suited to my body so why not write a book a fictional novel about such women who are empowering themselves through fashion; in the fashion industry and becoming major players. 

This event is about the EMPOWERING  of Full Figured Women, this is not the arena to preach weight loss. Healthy habits maybe, but not full on beast mode. 

So, she happened to stop by my table (I vended the event) and said my book seems interesting, but I (me) have to admit that extra weight is bad. If you could see my face! 

I told her being healthy IS NOT equated to size in particular. It's about how you live. You don't have to be super thin to be healthy or super fat to have health issues. I take myself for example, I told her I've lost over 135lbs. Yet to her I'm still an obese woman. I was trying to emphasize that you don't know where people come from so you cannot criticize where they are going because you don't know where they are in their journey to getting healthy. You cannot assume that because a person has a little extra weight that they are not doing what is needed to get healthier for themselves and not for the general public. 

And in any case, I think her intentions were well intended; but poorly delivered. 

Any who...until I have the next CONVERSATION IN MY HEAD‼️ TTYL 💋

Plus Size Pin Up GLAM!

Yes! I was serving up a STEAMING, HOT, platter of LIFE, when I attended the Glam Her Fashion Show in Paterson NJ! Usually I don't toot my own horn, but after losing close to 120 lbs, in the words of Queen B "I was feelin' myself!" 

CHECK OUT MY LOOK OF THE DAY!

This is the first time, that I really stepped out of my comfort zone, and I'm proud of myself for taking the risk. Another risk I'm taking is persuing my dream of being an author, I hope that you all will continue to support my endeavors; by finding me on social media, and purchaseing your copy of The Life & Times of a Full Figured Fashionista releaseing SOON! 

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LAUNCH PARTY

The Life & Times of a Full Figured Fashionista will be hosting a book launch party for the first novel Saturday, August 15th at 176 East 7th Street Paterson, NJ! 

Come and enjoy:

*Networking

*Music

*Food 

*Drinks

*Raffle Prizes 

* And Swag Bags!

Please reserve your copy today, links to Eventbrite is:

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Thank you for ALL your support!

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Artists Spotlight: Male Model & Designer Joquann Montgomery

When this gentalmen first contacted me about being featured in Artists Spotlight, I read his bio and I was blown away by the determination that he possesses to succeed in a very difficult industry. What's his chosen industry? Well, of course it's fashion silly! Joquann Montgomery is inspiring Male Model and Clothing Designer. Modeling in several shows, Mr. Montgomery has developed a signature style all his own. His inspiration and motivation for creating new and innovative peices are his three children Xavier, Sa'Mya, and Cameron. Not only is Joquann pursuing his dreams in the fashion industry by developing an array of talents, that have multiple degrees of challenges; he is also an example of what a father should be. As a father he is showing his children how important it is to have a dream, chase the dream, and live the dream. In regards to how he plans to reach his goals Mr. Montgomery said "my goals are to make it big by any means necessary in life without losing myself,and morals to life in the process." ~ Joquann Montgomery 

Gaining experience from working with renowned designers such as, Sneakah Boutique who has worked with the recording artist Fabolous; he's also worked with Guy Benson, D'Wayne Reade of OxyFly Clothing, and aspiring young designers from Bergan Community College, Mr. Montgomery is in the process of developing his own clothing line for men and women called "AURA" with partner MAMBA MUTELA, and an expected launch Summer/Fall of 2015. 

As an artist, I'm proud that this duo has team up to create one of a kind, original designs. It's not easy to start from scratching any industry, but the fashion arena is by far the most difficult and the road ahead will not be easily traveled; but I for one have faith that when all is said and done I will be able to say that I had the pleasure of being the FIRST Blogger/Writer that had the opportunity to have had help them reach stardom of which I am sure they will have. 

LET'S SUPPORT EACH OTHER!

Please follow Joquann Montgomery on Instagram at therealjae1, and also follow MAMBA MUTELA at doin_me1428 

Joquann, show how the men RIP THE RUNWAY! 

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Life & Times of a Full Figured Fashionista BOOK LAUNCH/ NETWORKINGEXTRAVAGANZA!

The Life & Times of a Full Figured Fashionista will be hosting a book launch party for the first novel Saturday, August 15th at 176 7th Avenue Paterson, NJ! 

Come and enjoy:

*Networking

*Music

*Food

*Book Signing/Reading

*Drinks

*Raffle Prizes 

*And Swag Bags!

*ONLY FOR PICK UP AT THE EVENT, PLEASE RESERVE BELOW!*

Please reserve your copy today, links to Eventbrite is:

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Who's helping to make the dream a reality?

Shay from SW Consulting at ShayRozay.com

And also the Event Planner to the Stars, Iasha Harris of Dazzling Touch Events! 

Thank you for ALL your support! Don't forget to get your copy!

MEET THE AUTHOR! 

SATURDAY, AUGUST 15th 2015. 

176 East 7th Steeet, Paterson NJ

EVENT STARTS AT 4:00pm

Meet The Team!

I have some amazing news to share with you! You are now reading the blog of Full Blossom Magazine's newest Administrative Editor! YAY! Joining the team is amazing, and a dream for me. I've wanted to work with Full Bloosom Magazine for a long time, and I now have my chance. 

Thank you Mello Andrews for reaching out to me for the position, I promise to work hard and help the other staff members elevate Full Blossom to its fullest potential! 

As Administrative Editor, it's my pleasure to work with the writers. From reading my blogs, you guys know I'm extremely passionate, and pay very close attention to detail and will bring that same passion to Full Blossom. I have worked with a team of writers previously, so I'm ready to create something special with a new caliber of contributors. If you have an interest in being a contributing writer please contact me via email for now at Fabulouslp@gmail.com until further notice.

Also, thank you to all of my amazing readers and supporters! I promise to bring you relevent content (you guys know I love my content), and continue to shine a light on all things plus size; be it fashion, wellness, career, etc. I'm just so appreciative of this opportunity, and to work with the other staff members; many of whom I've met before and they've left a great impression on me. Enough with the mushy ish, let me introduce to you the staff!

**Also don't forget to check your email to view the #1st issue of 2015!

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Conversations and Cocktails!

GOOD FRIENDS + DRINKS OVER CRUSHED ICE + GREAT CONVERSATION = MEMORIES THAT LAST A LIFETIME & FRIENDS THAT ARE MORE LIKE FAMILY

Hola Fashionistas, I know that your just as happy as I am that the holidays are over! Now it's time to relax and let all that holiday madness melt away like last years New Years Eve Resolutions. And what great way to forget about the bills you racked up. than to get turned up with good friends. CHEERS ANYONE?

Sometimes the best therapy is conversation. Get some friends together and have a good old fashion GIRLS NIGHT IN! When was the last time you and close friends got together to talk mess, man bash, and just plan act a fool? Go ahead and count how long it's been...I'll wait. 

Listen, we've all built up much stress in the passing year; and I vote we leave it there. Reflect on what was done, and move on; because we all know that life is too damn short to dwell on things we can't change.

Don't know what to do for Girls Night In? Try this:

1. Set a date for friends to come over.

2. Also, make the get together a pot luck so that everyone can bring their best dish. What's a G2G (get together) without food! 

3. Put a friend in charge of drinks! We all have the one friend that's an amateur mixologist, and knows every fruity drink known to man that can rival the knowledge of Jon Taffer. 

4. Its your job as host/hostess to make sure everyone is having a good time, so try to think of fun things to do that doesn't make you look like a school girl having a sleep over. 

        - get some great 'man hater' movies or chick flicks like Singles Mothers Club or Think Like A Man.

        - plan to have a stripper surprise ypur friends!

        - besides alcohol, make sure there is wine on deck!

        - play a few {drinking} games, or whatever games you guys like.

Bottom line be creative, not two people like the same things. Also, know that you can't please everyone; so if you get a complainer don't take it to heart. Just keep in mind that this person is miserable not matter what anyone does, and mental note not to invite them to the next g2g.

Really, Conversations & Cocktails is about just that! Have fun with friends, do some catching up on each others lives, and reminisce. Good friends are hard to come by, and if you guys really care about each other you'll never lose them; but just because you care deeply dosnt mean you don't have to work in the relationship, it means you have to work hard to keep it! 

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It's a matter of perception!

How do you view your world?

When you see a georgous woman in a professional, recreational, or casual setting what are your first thoughts when you see her? What do you notice first? Most women are skilled in the art of perception. We can make you see, feel, and hear what we want; but one thing that cannot be manipulated is the impression she leaves on you. I think Maya Angelou said it best when she said " I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, But people will never forget how you made them feel." 

To me that all perception really boils down to is how you make people feel when they come into contact with you. Or more commonly known as impression. Have you ever heard the phrase,you only make a first impress once? Sometimes making a speaking first impression isn't as crucial as making a visual first impression. In our society were judged on looks far more often than we are judged by the words that leave our mouths. At first glance some people think that they've got you completely figured you out; for example, your style of dress or way of speaking may cause people to believe that you are one way verses another. That assumption could be completely wrong; but again that's their visual perception of who you are, thus they "judge" based on that perception.

When it comes to work perfecting perception is crucial! From your interview to retirement you are being scrutinized for everything you do. For the contor of your speech to the style of dress you prefer. Employers need you to fit into a neat box in order to "fit" their office dynamic. It's your job to convince them that you do. 

Being plus size creates a perception all its own, which is dangerously close to stereotypeing. It's easy to see a plus size person and make assumptions on their lifestyle based on exterior. This type of catogorizing affects the possibility of gaining employment, making connections with people, and present and future relationships. The fact is that the perception of plus size people is usually a negative one, which can impact one's day to day activities. For example, as previously stated I asked... When you see a georgous woman in a professional, recreational, or casual setting what are your first thoughts when you see her? What do you notice first? What If I added the fact that this woman is full figured? Does that change the amount of attention you give? 

What about this?

(The following are asked to people who are considered straight size, and their reactions to plus size stimuli, lol)

- If she was interviewing for a position in your company and was qualified; should you consider her weight an issue? Would you think she was a health risk, cost your companies HMO more money to carry her, would she be a lazy worker, or would you simply think she would me more susceptible to calling out? These are the types of worries full figured people face when daring to enter into the career game; that's why most start their own businesses.

- If you saw a gorgeous full figured man/woman would you flirt with that person? If everything about them just turned you on. Would you ask that person out in a date? Give them an invite to your friends get together, or family dinners? Some of you might answer yes to save face. But really if in that situation...would it still be yes? I've met people in real life (associates only! I've not dated them!) that are fine with sexing you (plus size person), ok with hanging out with you (because fat people are funny, entertaining, and confident); but won't interact with outside of a personal setting. 

I'm not trying to change your mind on anything that you believe to be true or untrue, my job is to give you a different view of a world where things or people are not just black and white, up or down, but every color you can possibly imagine and going in infinite directions.

**Please check out my previous blog  Curvylicious 101: What Plus Size Women & Lovers Should know**

PERCEPTION.

Do we have a certain image that creates a perception of who we are or a public face people are use to seeing; thus making it a part of our personalities? For instance, I've found that, if people perceive you as being kind that they assimilate that with being a push over or someone easily coerced into following others. On the flip side, you can be perceived as a tough person; but really that side of you only comes out when negatively provoked. This is just one example of the many ways perception can influence how people think and associate you with their idea of who you are and what they want you to be.

CHANGING NEGATIVE PERCEPTIONS:

To change a negative perception of yourself, you have to first determine if there is one. Honesty, I don't allow anyone's opinion of me change how I feel about myself. I have a strong sense of self and I know what I want. Also, because others are unsure of how to go about reaching their goals they mistake my assertiveness for anger ( totally not an angry person) I'm just hopeful and confident that the things I work hard for actually happen. But in order for that perception of me to change I've adopted ways as to not be aggressive (but still not except bullshit!) My solution: not to be engulfed into subjects that offer a debate on subject that can be ill represented. Try to keep the conversation flowing in a positive direction while standing firm in my agenda or point. I've learned that I don't have to debate fiercely with other people, but except the fact that different people have different opinions (which I'm totally cool with, I just don't want people to attempt to force me to agree with them #Petpeeve #NeverGonnaHappen). Sometimes that works for me because I'm respectful of differences, I just wish that everyone was just as respectful; but I digress. 

If you do attempt to change a negative perception, my suggestion would me to soul search. Find out how to keep peace within yourself and as time progresses you can develope the same for others.

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Oh How they SHINE! The IT Clutch Bags & Trends of the Season 👛!

It sparkles, shines and leaves imitatiors green with envy! What could I possibly be talking about? Glittery clutch bags, shoes, and to die for jewelry. YES, it's that time again; the Holidays! This is the time of year where women go crazy tring to look perfect for up coming events, office paries, social events, and all around gatherings.

With the holidays fast approaching its essential to have the right accessories with your outfit. It's too easy to overwhelm an ensemble with too much of a good thing. When dressing for any event where your featuring a sparkling item think balance. For example, if your going to attend a cocktail party and plan to put a glittery clutch to good use; please remit wearing a glittery or sequin dress (or anything that can out shine your clutch). The clutch is the focus peice, any other assessories worn will be to complement it; not wash it out with too many contrasting colors. 

The most important thing to remember when dressing up is to have FUN! There's nothing worst that looking FABULOUS while sporting a sour attitude. Holiday time is about fun, catching up with loved ones, and enjoying the company of good friends and a glass of Chardonnay! Check out some beautiful clutch bags that will bring the WOW factor to you wardrobe. 

1.  Natasha Couture 'Ice Crystal' 

2. Diane Von Furstenberg 'Evil Eye' Minaudière 

3. (Found on Pinterest)

4. These bags I own and found on Amazon.com

Silver tone:

Blue tone with gold rim:

5. Steave Madden 'Porttt-R' Pump

6. Christian Louboutin 'Follies Spikes' Pointy Toe Pump

7. Jessica Simpson 'Rebecca' Platform Pump

8. Arielle Collection Cocktail Ring

9. BP Crystal Flower Statement Necklace 

10.  Givenchy Small Faux Pearl Bracelet 

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