Showing posts with label writing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label writing. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Life & Times of a Full Figured Fashionista BOOK LAUNCH/ NETWORKINGEXTRAVAGANZA!


The Life & Times of a Full Figured Fashionista will be hosting a book launch party for the first novel Saturday, August 15th at 176 7th Avenue Paterson, NJ! 
Come and enjoy:
*Networking
*Music
*Food
*Book Signing/Reading
*Drinks
*Raffle Prizes 
*And Swag Bags!

*ONLY FOR PICK UP AT THE EVENT, PLEASE RESERVE BELOW!*

Please reserve your copy today, links to Eventbrite is:

Who's helping to make the dream a reality?

Shay from SW Consulting at ShayRozay.com



And also the Event Planner to the Stars, Iasha Harris of Dazzling Touch Events! 


Thank you for ALL your support! Don't forget to get your copy!

MEET THE AUTHOR! 

SATURDAY, AUGUST 15th 2015. 
176 East 7th Steeet, Paterson NJ
EVENT STARTS AT 4:00pm









Saturday, December 27, 2014

It's a matter of perception!

How do you view your world?

When you see a georgous woman in a professional, recreational, or casual setting what are your first thoughts when you see her? What do you notice first? Most women are skilled in the art of perception. We can make you see, feel, and hear what we want; but one thing that cannot be manipulated is the impression she leaves on you. I think Maya Angelou said it best when she said " I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, But people will never forget how you made them feel." 

To me that all perception really boils down to is how you make people feel when they come into contact with you. Or more commonly known as impression. Have you ever heard the phrase,you only make a first impress once? Sometimes making a speaking first impression isn't as crucial as making a visual first impression. In our society were judged on looks far more often than we are judged by the words that leave our mouths. At first glance some people think that they've got you completely figured you out; for example, your style of dress or way of speaking may cause people to believe that you are one way verses another. That assumption could be completely wrong; but again that's their visual perception of who you are, thus they "judge" based on that perception.

When it comes to work perfecting perception is crucial! From your interview to retirement you are being scrutinized for everything you do. For the contor of your speech to the style of dress you prefer. Employers need you to fit into a neat box in order to "fit" their office dynamic. It's your job to convince them that you do. 


Being plus size creates a perception all its own, which is dangerously close to stereotypeing. It's easy to see a plus size person and make assumptions on their lifestyle based on exterior. This type of catogorizing affects the possibility of gaining employment, making connections with people, and present and future relationships. The fact is that the perception of plus size people is usually a negative one, which can impact one's day to day activities. For example, as previously stated I asked... 
When you see a georgous woman in a professional, recreational, or casual setting what are your first thoughts when you see her? What do you notice first? What If I added the fact that this woman is full figured? Does that change the amount of attention you give? 

What about this?


(The following are asked to people who are considered straight size, and their reactions to plus size stimuli, lol)

- If she was interviewing for a position in your company and was qualified; should you consider her weight an issue? Would you think she was a health risk, cost your companies HMO more money to carry her, would she be a lazy worker, or would you simply think she would me more susceptible to calling out? These are the types of worries full figured people face when daring to enter into the career game; that's why most start their own businesses.

- If you saw a gorgeous full figured man/woman would you flirt with that person? If everything about them just turned you on. Would you ask that person out in a date? Give them an invite to your friends get together, or family dinners? Some of you might answer yes to save face. But really if in that situation...would it still be yes? I've met people in real life (associates only! I've not dated them!) that are fine with sexing you (plus size person), ok with hanging out with you (because fat people are funny, entertaining, and confident); but won't interact with outside of a personal setting. 

I'm not trying to change your mind on anything that you believe to be true or untrue, my job is to give you a different view of a world where things or people are not just black and white, up or down, but every color you can possibly imagine and going in infinite directions.

**Please check out my previous blog  Curvylicious 101: What Plus Size Women & Lovers Should know**

PERCEPTION.



Do we have a certain image that creates a perception of who we are or a public face people are use to seeing; thus making it a part of our personalities? For instance, I've found that, if people perceive you as being kind that they assimilate that with being a push over or someone easily coerced into following others. On the flip side, you can be perceived as a tough person; but really that side of you only comes out when negatively provoked. This is just one example of the many ways perception can influence how people think and associate you with their idea of who you are and what they want you to be.

CHANGING NEGATIVE PERCEPTIONS:

To change a negative perception of yourself, you have to first determine if there is one. Honesty, I don't allow anyone's opinion of me change how I feel about myself. I have a strong sense of self and I know what I want. Also, because others are unsure of how to go about reaching their goals they mistake my assertiveness for anger ( totally not an angry person) I'm just hopeful and confident that the things I work hard for actually happen. But in order for that perception of me to change I've adopted ways as to not be aggressive (but still not except bullshit!) My solution: not to be engulfed into subjects that offer a debate on subject that can be ill represented. Try to keep the conversation flowing in a positive direction while standing firm in my agenda or point. I've learned that I don't have to debate fiercely with other people, but except the fact that different people have different opinions (which I'm totally cool with, I just don't want people to attempt to force me to agree with them #Petpeeve #NeverGonnaHappen). Sometimes that works for me because I'm respectful of differences, I just wish that everyone was just as respectful; but I digress. 

If you do attempt to change a negative perception, my suggestion would me to soul search. Find out how to keep peace within yourself and as time progresses you can develope the same for others.




Monday, August 12, 2013

Expanding Fashion Plus: Taking a new direction on the Business of Curves!



Hello my darlings! Being an independent writer I wear many hats. Recently I've been researching ways to grow my business. I've decided to put my degrees to use and get involved in:
- Hosting events
- Speaking engagements
- Creative directing/assisting
- and Plus Size Personal Styling

Although, plus size fashion blogging is my priority; I would like explore what it means to be a full figured business woman. In all honesty it's always been a dream of mine to expand Fashion Plus, and really be a positive voice on full figured fashion; whether its the good, bad, or the ugly. In the beginning of my blogging career I've always made it known that fashion is just the tip of the iceberg, and that women (especially full figured women) have different levels, and situations that if your not plus size won't be understood. 

My goal is to reach the women who like me felt like no one understood their hopes, dreams, aspirations, and
of course their sorrows. If I can reach them through speaking I will do that. If I can make them feel better by being a personal stylist and revamping their wardrobe; then so be it. I want to contribute to an industry that helped me find my niche as well as my voice.

Please support me in my ventures by helping me put the word out. My talents extend beyond writing and I'd like to explore them in the plus size business world! 

For any inquires email me at: Fabulouslyp@gmail.com

Find me on:
Youtube: www.youtube.com/user/dom4fashionplus
Instagram: www.instagram.com/plusiszeprincessdom
Facebook: www.facebook.com/fashionplusblog

*Images by Google and Myself

Thursday, May 16, 2013

Thick is always the right size! Interview with author Nah'Sun

Hello beautiful people! Today is the day, the interview you've all been waiting for is finally here! Today I give to you the interview with author Nah'Sun writer/creator of the "Thick" series of books geared towards full figured women. His books In the Thick Of Things, Thick When Chances are Slim, and Thick in the Nick of time are all honest, raw, and true to subject books that I'm sure every plus size women can relate to. Each of the characters in this series of books I can say that I've either known if real life(personality of the character in relation to people I have known) or people that I can see actually doing the things describes in the books. So without further delay I give you our interview. Please visit Nah'Sun's website, details will be below following our interview; and support our artists who are bringing positivity to the plus size/full figured community. It's not often we are the sex symbols, best friends, positive subject (muse), and love interest in anything; so please take advantage of this platform and support him and others like him that spread the word of how amazing we all are!


1. I'm so glad you gave me this opportunity to interview you. Can I ask, why you chose me?

You didn’t act Hollywood when I met you at the Full Figured Pageantry in Jersey.

2. What do you expect to get from this interview? What is it you want people to know about you or
Author Nah'Sun
your series of books?

People on social sites complain about being bored. My interviews are the cure to getting rid of boredom in your life. As far as my books, readers will know they’ll get their money’s worth because even if they dislike the books, they’ll still get something from them.

3. Who inspired you to become a writer?

Winning 25 dollars on a Malcolm X essay that bested everyone in the 4th grade level of my elementary school inspired me…when I was in the 4th grade of course. The rest is history.

4. Have you been on a book tour? If so what cities have you visited? 

I pick and choose the places I wanna hit up. Some markets are stronger than others. Philly, Detroit, Atlanta, Delaware, Miami, DC, Boston, NYC, New Jersey, and Virginia are places I’d hit up so far. I still gotta hit up the West Coast.

What’s funny is that I haven’t done a book signing in Chicago (where I’m from), but that’s mainly due to industry politics.

5. Because of your attraction to full figured women which inspired you to create the "Thick" series dedicated to their voluptuousness, as a man how do you know what full figured women want?

Asking questions gave me insight of what they go through. Then I let my imagination run its course. I’ve been dating plus size women for awhile, so in a lot of cases I didn’t have to do the homework because I knew the homework.

6.  Do you agree that "Thick is the new thin?" Why?

Thick is NEVER the new thin because plus size women were always attractive to the public eye. The Sarah “Saartijie” Baartman story tells you that. Google her. It’s just that society loves to front on the big girls and make way for their slender counterparts.

There maybe a racial undertone to the shunning of thick women because women of African descent are mostly known for wide hips and large butts. You know it’s hard for Black women to get props for their beauty as it is, but overall, it’s hard for big girls of all shades to get some shine for their beauty.

7.  Have you always dated full figured women? And what makes you so attracted to them?

Blame my uncle’s ex-wife for walking out the room half naked when I was 3 years old. She was full figured with some tig ol biddies. Seeing her half naked changed my life forever.

Full figured women are attracted to me for some reason. I don’t size discriminate, but most of my dates have been plus size women.

8.  What type of full figured woman do you find attractive? For example, conservative, candid,
 spontaneous etc.  And why?

A woman with some common sense who can hold an intellectual conversation even if I disagree with her is attractive. That makes me horny. Physical attraction is just the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.

9.  If you had to choose a feature that you loved the most on a full figured woman what would it be?

This must be a trick question because I’m an ass man. My answer is generic as hell, but it is what it is. A round basketball ass with wide “baby making hips” is a plus. I love palming asses.

10. There isn't a lot of fashion in your series, do you not like what full figured women are wearing? 

Clothes don’t make the woman, the woman makes the clothes. I write stories to bare the soul of my characters, not write a book that’s a glorified commercial for brand name clothes, cars, shoes and alcoholic beverages without me getting paid for it.

11. What sort of outfit would you like to see? 

Outfits like dresses, skirts, blazers, fishnet stockings, or anything sexy but classy unless I’m writing an erotic scene where a woman is wearing only her birthday suit with “phuck me pumps” if I want her kinky

12.  I love the table of jewels (contents) section in your books, it really sets the tone for each section and resembles a menu. How did you get the idea to set it up that way? And what was your intention?

I like to be different. I use certain phrases to describe chapters without giving them away. In the original THICK novel I used foods, and in the sequel I used funny phrases. I dare to stand out, and it worked since you asked me a question about my table of content.

13. Your main character seems to be all over the place when it comes to relationships.  Is this a reflection of the author?

My characters are based on imagination and what I see and hear on the regular. Some of my characters are all over the place because they’re chaotic. Life is chaotic, and that reflects a lot of my characters. The goal for them is to either find themselves, or forever get destroyed by their recklessness.

14. Which character is your favorite of the series? And why?

My favorite character in the THICK series so far is Born Life. He’s the person I might’ve become if I was wild and uncivilized.

15. In regards to preparation, how did you come up with story lines? And what mindset did you put
working his magic!
yourself into in order to create this series?

I write a quick outline and work from there. My imagination crushes the outline once I freestyle the story and find my groove. I already know what I wanna write in the series. I just gotta execute what I have in mind.

That’s the hard part.

16. When you write do you know how you want the story to end? Or do you let it flow and figure it out as you go?

I don’t know how the story ends until I write. Hell, I constantly change the story in my mind as I write once I get the feel of a story. That’s why it takes me 9 months to complete a novel. I don’t wanna rush when I know I can do better.

17. In the intro section you said "Invest in your career." What advice would you give aspiring writers interesting in a career in publishing?

Master the art of writing by taking a creative writing course at a community college. I majored in Journalism and minored in English a 4-year university, but you don’t have to spend an arm and a leg to get your feet wet with writing. Just take a writing course or two, or participate in a writing fellowship to get a feel of how others view your work.

I sharpened my swords to take off heads before I stepped foot in the book game. You only get one good crack at a first impression once you release your debut novel. Also know the business. If the business side isn’t right, nothing else matters regardless of how talented you are.

18. I love your writing style, it's relate-able and the message is easily understood. What or whom inspired you to write that way?

I bombed with my first novel. My first novel (which shall remain nameless) sold very well, but a lot of people didn’t “get it” because the writing style was too literary, meaning you wouldn’t understand the style unless you had a clear understanding of metaphors, symbolism, motifs and other literary devices. It was the type of book you’ll read in class instead of your vacation. I switched my style and put the most profound messages in a simpler form without the bells and whistles.

In other words, I got to the point and kept it simple without dumbing down.

19. In Thick When the Chances are Slim, you've said that you can appreciate a woman's physical self without perversion. Can you elaborate?

I can look at a naked woman without the urge to sleep with her. That’s why my books covers are illustrated the way they are. Some people criticized the book covers of THICK 1 and 2, but I make no apologies for how they were drawn. I purposely made them artistically erotic to subconsciously put the thought in people’s minds that plus size women are sexy, too.

We shouldn’t be afraid of nakedness, but society is so undisciplined and tainted to the point where the days of walking on earth clothes-less without worries are over. This isn’t the Garden of Eden. It’s a jungle. That’s why women gotta cover up more when they dress up so guys, and society at large, can focus on their inner beauty instead of plotting on ways to get in their jeans or judging them.

20. In regards to writing, publishing, and promoting what would you have done differently? 

I would’ve written the THICK series first. The THICK style is simple enough for everyone to follow. It’s catchier. My first novel was too difficult for a lot of readers to follow. That’s when I realized that people read fiction for entertainment purposes and not necessarily for the poetics of the writing.

21. How do you plan to deal with the switch from hardcover or paperback book to that of the digital
book?

eBooks are the devil, but I’ll eventually convert my paperbacks to digital because people nowadays act like they can’t read a book unless it’s digital. It’s funny because they’ve been reading hardcover and paperbacks for years. Now they act like it’s a sin to not read eBooks.

Society is slowly but surely becoming enslaved by technology, but hey, it is what it is.

22.  What else can we expect for the "Thick" series?

Expect your money’s worth. I bust my ass when I write so you can bust your ass at work to spend 15 bucks on one of my books. Fair exchange is no robbery.

23.  What's next for Nah'Sun? 

Who knows…I might get into porn…anything’s possible.

24. Where can we find your novels? 

You can find my novels at any mom and pop spot, and also hit up the company’s website @ www.nahsunblaze.com to get an autographed copy of my books once you order.

You show love, you get love. You do dirt, you get mud.

Peace

Nah’Sun the Great




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Saturday, February 23, 2013

Lost In You

If you follow my blog, Facebook, or YouTube page then you know I love to write. Nothing makes me feel better especially on times of stress. The best thing about writing is the places the story can take you, the images in your mind, and the mystery of the authors meaning. Writing is a wonderful outlet, has beautiful imagery, and if its a great body of work can stimulate others. This poem I wrote is one that suggests mystery(for me anyway), I wonder if you can guess what is being talked about?

Lost In You:

You've caressed my face with your warm feel,
Intoxicated my senses with your sweet sent,
I've danced to your song, loving the rhythm you gave me,
Taking the deepest of breaths,
I'm lost in you.

I am lost in your your eyes and what lies underneath,
The deepest of browns that pierce through me,
I've inhaled your honeyed breath,
And tasted the sweetest of flavors,
Engulfed by your essence,
I bend to your pleasure,
I'm lost in you.

I've traced and outlined your body too many times to count,
Chronicling a blueprint in my mind of the reaction you've caused,
I've slept in the softness of you;hours of bliss,
To awaken comforted by the memory of your kiss,
I am lost in you.

*I wrote this with the intent to bring life to something that had none. I guess this was my attempt at showing growth as a writer. Please try and see if you can figure out what or who I'm talking about.

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