Conversations Inside My Head

So, I'm randomly trying to decide if I should go the gym today or get in some much needed writing for my second book. That's when the thought hit me. At the event last weekend in Newark I met a woman who is very much into fitness, and talking to people about it. NOTHING is wrong with that, but I do think her delivery needs improving.

So I kind of took that as her insinuating that I am glorifying and unhealthy lifestyle by writing a book about full figured women in the fashion industry. I'm a lover of fashion and I like to look good when ever I go somewhere, so yes fashion is a huge part of being confident and about being a woman comfortable in my skin.  So yes I want to have things that are well-suited to my body so why not write a book a fictional novel about such women who are empowering themselves through fashion; in the fashion industry and becoming major players. 

This event is about the EMPOWERING  of Full Figured Women, this is not the arena to preach weight loss. Healthy habits maybe, but not full on beast mode. 

So, she happened to stop by my table (I vended the event) and said my book seems interesting, but I (me) have to admit that extra weight is bad. If you could see my face! 

I told her being healthy IS NOT equated to size in particular. It's about how you live. You don't have to be super thin to be healthy or super fat to have health issues. I take myself for example, I told her I've lost over 135lbs. Yet to her I'm still an obese woman. I was trying to emphasize that you don't know where people come from so you cannot criticize where they are going because you don't know where they are in their journey to getting healthy. You cannot assume that because a person has a little extra weight that they are not doing what is needed to get healthier for themselves and not for the general public. 

And in any case, I think her intentions were well intended; but poorly delivered. 

Any who...until I have the next CONVERSATION IN MY HEAD‼️ TTYL 💋

Bodacious Brides!

Kelly Rowland isn't the only lucky lady getting married, watch out for the THICK brides! Yes ladies, the day we all look forward to...DUAL INCOME otherwise known as getting married. There are so many details to consider, and loads of wrong turns that can be made. How do we avoid all this? Simply by getting a wedding planner, but if your like me and have a budget that's NOT an option. What's a bride to do?

First of all get your head in the game! This is not a problem but a challenge, a conundrum is you will; that must be solved before the big day. First pick your date, what do you see when you envision your wedding? Are you outside, inside, spring time, summer time, or fall? The date you pick correlates with the season and affects your choice of dress for you and your wedding party. 

Next, choose your colors. Big girls, we can wear any color we want, just make sure it suits you or your

wedding party. Also, who says the bride has to wear white? White is traditionally for virgins, let's keep it
100; most of us are not virgins we just keep the tradition going. You can be adventurous with the color scheme to make a truly unique vision come to life. 

The next focus should be on your venue. Besides finding the perfect dress, the venue is the second hardest task of putting together a wedding. You have to decide if you want the reception to be in same place as the ceremony or travel to two separate places.  Keep in mind separate places means SEPARATE deposits. By choosing different areas you will be spending more money, but if it can't be avoided then a woman's got to do, what a woman's got to do!

Then, you want to focus on all the small things that can get lost in the chaos of planning a wedding. Like for example, deciding how to style your hair. If your an anal bride (LOL) you would also choose how you'd like your wedding party to style their hair also. Sometimes you can leave stuff like this to chance, but WHY?

  Also, don't forget shoes and accessories, and the all important Wedding Night Lingerie.This is the night to let all your inhibitions run FREE, your with your life partner, so there is no 
Here are a few thangs that can get the party started real quick:

Lastly, ladies say YES to the dress! with all the different selections out in the bridal world it can be more than
overwhelming to decide on the dress that will be timeless, elegant, and memorable. As a plus size women, I refuse to stick with the same boxy design that most luscious size ladies do. I would want something that reflects my personality, pushes the envelope of traditional thinking, and of course is drop dead sexy! Check out some dress choices that I thought would suit every type of bride, from traditional to over the top!

 As as you search for dresses remember everything isn't for everybody, LIKE THIS...

 

And PLEASE remember this! Spanx or any other shaping garment can help hid what you don't want people to see, and accentuate what you do!

Any questions, comments, or concerns please leave me a comment below! As always, STAY BEAUTIFUL, CONFIDENT, AND ABOVE ALL SEXY! 

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Can We Talk For Real? The Mens Weigh In: What Do Men Really Want To Say, But Too Afraid Too?

On this blog we've mostly talked about the ladies, and issues that concern us. This time the fellas should be heard, and their feelings and thought brought to light. Men mostly are simple creatures, all they need is food, sex, & sports( in that order!). But sometimes they have things they want to say that we ladies are not letting them.

 So, fellas THIS IS YOUR CHANCE to say how you really feel about the beautiful women in your life; past, present, & future. I will submit a few question to get the ball rolling; feel free to add some of your own and see the response you get from both men and women. Please answer honestly, and not be embarrassed to go all out and really express your self. So, LETS GET IT!

1. What kind of woman is your woman compared to your dream girl?

2. How would you like her to greet you after working all day?

3. In sex, what makes her a cut above the rest? Or what what do you want her to do that she doesn't anymore or ever?

4. If you could give her better characteristics, what would they be?

5. If you could change anything, what would you change and why?

6. Are men attracted to the type of woman other men approve of? In other words do your friends dictate the type of
women you would date?

7. Is it more difficult to be with a partner of a different race than your own? If so, how?

8. Are you ok with your woman having male friends that are straight?

9. Can you be just friends with a woman? And is your partner ok with that relationship?

10.  If you could sleep with your woman's friend, would you? If so why?

11. What would be your porn star name? (Start with the first name of you first pet, and you last name is the name of the street you live on).

12. Thick, thin, meaty, or baby got BACK! How do you like women shaped? 

13. Do you like what she wears? If not what would you change? 

14. In shopping, how much is too much to spend? Does she go overboard?

Ok, guys here are some question to wrap your mind around. If you have any for me or want to post your own feel free. REMEMBER  please be honest, but not too nasty. Like I said before MEN, IT'S YOUR TURN TO SPEAK! So, let yourself be heard; break the all and chain.


SIDE NOTE:  This should never be how you feel when your in a relationship>>>>>>

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Plus size or full figured doesn't mean FAT!

For years women have been laboring under the misconception that a curvy woman is automatically considered a FAT woman. The stigma has lasted for as long as fashion has existed. Why? It was always thought that a woman has a shape outside of a straight line, she is fat or more commonly known as now is obese. This concept is simply not true. Like everything else in life there are degrees to measure the body type of a woman.

But I'm not talking about measuring, I'm more concerned with how we as women are made to feel when it's suggested that to be attractive you have to fit this perfect mold that all or most people want to be categorized as.

No! You do not have to be fat to be plus size. What prompted me to discuss this further it a conversation I had with a friend. During this conversation I realized I knew many people who thought of curvy women as plus size; including themselves. And for some women to come to the realization that they are not the size they use to be or not the size they want to be is scary. So what happens? You  and I both know what happens... They go after clothing that doesn't make them feel good or sexy, but depressed because it doesn't drape the right way on their bodies.

Question: Why do we lie?

Why is it so hard to come to grips with the fact that 'I need a bigger size?'  Why when we consider cars, money, houses, etc bigger is better; with people sweet is petite? And it echoes so loudly that soon that's all we hear and it becomes our obsession. Healthy is one thing forcing your body to conform to another persons standards is another story entirely.

Looking at clothing ads for full figured women you will see that most of those women are not plus size because their FAT; but because they have large breast, and wide hips. In what world is LARGE BREASTS and WIDE HIPS ever wrong?

Listen, I am every bit full figured. I have large breasts, wide hips, round stomach and yes I could be healthier but over all I am happy with myself.  I would rather buy clothes that fit and look good on me regardless of its size; then to buy something much smaller, makes me look a HOT MESS, and get me all the wrong attention simply out of pure vanity of a number size no one will see because the tags are on the inside of my clothes... Tell me what is the problem with that?

No, you don't have to be fat to be considered full figured; but you do have to be dumb to consider yourself anything short of it!

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Lost In You

If you follow my blog, Facebook, or YouTube page then you know I love to write. Nothing makes me feel better especially on times of stress. The best thing about writing is the places the story can take you, the images in your mind, and the mystery of the authors meaning. Writing is a wonderful outlet, has beautiful imagery, and if its a great body of work can stimulate others. This poem I wrote is one that suggests mystery(for me anyway), I wonder if you can guess what is being talked about?

Lost In You:

You've caressed my face with your warm feel,
Intoxicated my senses with your sweet sent,
I've danced to your song, loving the rhythm you gave me,
Taking the deepest of breaths,
I'm lost in you.

I am lost in your your eyes and what lies underneath,
The deepest of browns that pierce through me,
I've inhaled your honeyed breath,
And tasted the sweetest of flavors,
Engulfed by your essence,
I bend to your pleasure,
I'm lost in you.

I've traced and outlined your body too many times to count,
Chronicling a blueprint in my mind of the reaction you've caused,
I've slept in the softness of you;hours of bliss,
To awaken comforted by the memory of your kiss,
I am lost in you.

*I wrote this with the intent to bring life to something that had none. I guess this was my attempt at showing growth as a writer. Please try and see if you can figure out what or who I'm talking about.

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Beauty of the Week! Who says beautiful only comes in one size?

Hello Dolls! Now being featured on Fashion Plus for Facebook is The Beauty of The Week! So, every curvy, full figured, or plus size king or queen who wants to show off the beauty that they've been blessed with post up your pictures as many or as little as you want and ONCE a week someone will be selected to wear the CROWN as Beauty of the Week and bragging rights!

When you post up your picture please say what you do or want to do for a living so that can be included in your bragging rights.

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The mirror has two faces: Which one do you believe?

Hello Dolls! I know you guys are looking at this image saying ok, what's this about? Well, I've had something on my mind I want to share with all of you; it's something we all struggle with, but most people don't talk about it or ignore it. I know because I'm guiltily of ignoring it myself. First I want to say I'm no doctor, therapist, or anything like that; I just talk to you guys from a real place of what I've seen, heard, or experienced for myself. Can I do that? Is that alright? Well, let's get started!
The two faces of a mirror, I know y'all like; what two faces? When I look I only see one, and that's the fabulous me! And your right there is only one face and it's yours, but when I say two faces; what I mean is the face you see in the mirror, and the one you see in your MIND. What I'm really talking about is perception or body image perception. I've notice that some of us don't believe what we see in the mirror because our minds are giving us totally different information. We apply how we feel to how we look, thus using our outer appearance to reflect what we think we look like; and this simply isn't true (not in all cases, but a good majority). Like I said I'm guilty of the same misconception as most so I'm not trying to be Debbie Downer, I just want to be real with you.
How can we fix this? By being honest with ourselves about our appearances and how we appear to other people? Did you ever try asking somebody who knows you pretty well about how they perceive you? Well, you should if you didn't the results could shock you. Plus size ladies were affected by this most of all that's why we seem to miss the mark when trying to reinvent ourselves; a majority of the time we don't know where to start so we go for the easiest mark. Fashion magazines, clothing stores that don't go up to our size, wear items six sizes too small; all in an effort to feel better about our own perception of ourselves. And why? It does nothing but stress us out later if we feel like we don't measure up. Our minds are the "I can wear that beast" and we feed it by feeding into the mainstream idea of what a "woman" should look like. That 'beast' tell us we can do something and we believe it that's the minds perception. Then we do it and look in the mirror at our handiwork and we look a HOT MESS! That my lovely is the mirrors perception. The mirror is what's real; the mind is what is fooling us every time. I guess that's were we get the phrase GO AND GET YOUR MIND RIGHT! Because it can truly be the worst if that's how we continue to go through life.
Do some soul searching and really find out what it is that's causing you to believe a lie. You have to approve of yourself before anyone else can approve of you. Which mirror would you chose? Until next time my loves! Stay beautiful, confident, sexy, and above all plus size and loving it!


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Full Figured Novels Fit or Flop: the truth about novels geared towards plus size women.

Who are full figured women? We are much more than our fabulous figures, we are intelligent, capable, worthy, stubborn, yet loving all at once. So, in being all that we are; there should be media or written works that reflect the different persona's we possess? Well, there are some written works out in the world; but a majority of them reflect a plus size woman as sort of depressed, no self worth, or settling in what or whom ever is available in that moment. And this conclusion is simply not true, though we all have the ability to throw ourselves pity parties every now and then at some point we get over it and move on. The characters in some of these novels seem to live in there misery. This trend of a low to no self esteem plus size woman has to stop! We need to have a better representation of the issues we face than the demur character that is lacking in relevance. I have read quite a few full figured novels that were absolutely on point as far as what we endure and how we endure it; but some of the others make me question the motive of some of these writers. What do you think? Have you read a genre for full
Figured women? If so, how did you feel about it?

Recently, on Fashion Plus's Facebook page(www.facebook.com/FashionPlusBlog) I've suggested some books that could possibly have the potential to be great reads they are:

• Real Fitness for Real Women by Rice Rochell

• Down that aisle in style by: Chanein Canton

• The curvy Girl's guid to style by: Chastity Garner

• We just have more to love by: W. Roger Borwnlee

I've never read these works before and will be reading them with you all. So, we'll be discovering the possibilities together. As always stay BEAUTIFUL, CONFIDENT, & above all SEXY! Any comments, questions etc. Please leave them below or contact me on:
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Over the top pretty: how far do full figured women have to go to get noticed?

Hello Divas! I'm hear to report to you an alarming trend that occurs among the curvy, voluptuous, women of the world. Ladies, when the weather gets hotter and hotter the clothing starts to come off; and not all of us have to show all the goodies as the heat rises. You guys know what I'm talking about, I'm not the only Diva who's seen other queens letting it all hang out being careless about their sexiness or lack there of flap in the breeze. I've seen things wiggle and jiggle without much effort at all. Have you seen this before? Where is it most common? I wonder; how far do we as full figured women have to go to get noticed when the summer heat rises? This summer lets not have too big breasts in too small tank tops or shorts that can pass as thongs. Ladies, lets keep it Classy not Nasty. If your goal is to get attention from the male perspective; you won't get it by showing them yours first. You'll get it by showing them they have to work for all the goodies you have. Make them look at you and instantly wonder what you would look like without clothes; instead of showing them from the first impression. That will not make you a summer time boo, but instead a late night jump off; and Diva, we do not want that! Let this echo in your mind as you stock up on summer essentials; beauty, pretty, sexy, is not in what you wear; but how you wear it and the confidence you exude. By no means am I telling you to hide behind over sized clothing, shielding your sexiness from the world; but lets be smart about it. In hot weather our counter parts can wear next to nothing and unfortunately we can't follow in their footsteps. So, we have to stay a cut above and take our summer time game to a new level. First, my voluptuous Divas smaller is not better. Try and stay away from clothing that will in some way create friction between yourself and the garment. Nothing is more uncomfortable than the constant rubbing sensation caused by clothing that's too small. Did you ever notice that the tighter the clothes the more you sweat? Second, there is no creature on this earth more beautiful than you! So, please leave the heavy make-up at home. Putting on heavy make-up will suffocate your skin,allow you to sweat more, and most importantly take away from your natural beauty. I say stay fresh with your look use a light moisturizer(tinted if you prefer), maybe a good press powder to eliminate shine that may build up, and a sheer gloss to finish your look. Accessories should complement not overwhelm, but a statement they must make. When you walk in and out of a room you should be the first thing peoples eye catches, and the last thing their mouths talk about when complementing your style. As always stay beautiful, confident, full figured, and above all SEXY! Leave questions, comments, or concerns.   Until next time Divas!

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