Love, Sex & Relationships: How did I hook up with YOU!

Hello Dolls! How long has it been since you've been on a date? If ever? A lot of full figured women get into relationships and completely skip the dating part. In doing that we don't get to know the person were with, then have the nerve to be surprised when they play us out or push us to the left. That kind of dating isn't really dating and we as full figured men/women have to be careful of who we let into our space.

How many or your relationships end with you wondering how the hell you got into them in the first place? GUILTY! I've definitely been in some questionable relationships and after it was over I couldn't figure out for the life of me how I got in it in the first place. As a rule a rule I NEVER date in the winter time. I know your looking at this like...Yup! I knew she wasn't wrapped too tight. And you maybe right; but feel me on this. Most tired, good for nothing men prey on full figured women or any woman really in the winter time. Why? I 'll tell you why, because summer is over; so that means PLAY TIME is over too. So, now these "men" have to find a winter time boo to be hugged up with to get through the winter. For example, a plus size women is good for this type of guy, because were considered to be motherly, keep a clean house(well, most of us!), and be good cooks(again, most of us!), and be good lovers. Now, how some of this is said to be true of women, plus size women are more vulnerable because of "low self esteem" that some can carry from previous relationships. Not just with men, but people in general.

With that being said; ladies you, we, us have to be more cautious of who we allow in our lives, bedrooms, and YES checking accounts! Some of you ladies go crazy and give a dudes access to your car (knowing he doesn't have a license), bank accounts, credit cards then get a rude awakening when as soon as SPRING comes in he tells you that he needs space; and your smothering him. After that what happens? Your left tired, lonely, angry, BROKE, and a mess! Not everyone does this but some females do. Some of you shy away from your friends for this guy and put him first even when you know he puts you last. Now baby, is that the kind of relationship you really want. And what's worse is after spring/summer is over GUESS WHO is ringing your phone off the HOOK? Sad isn't it?

when  issues like this happens some of us measure ourselves against another women. This has to stop! Were all unique and have that extra special something that we bring to the table. Our abilities, strengths and weaknesses are different; and so is our beauty inside and out! KNOW YOUR WORTH!



So, how do we fix it? Work on you first, understand your own needs and wants. That will make it easier for you to spot a Bulls**t artist when you see one. Keep busy and focused on work, school, family, friends, because in the end those are the people who are going to hold you down when rough times happen.Get together with your girlfriends and have a girls night in/out. Doing that will take your mind off the BUFFOONERY that occurred prior. I know its hard but try to keep yourself in balance as much as possible. If your balance things won't stress you out as much and you will be able to make judgements or decisions with a clear conscience and a present mind.


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Santa baby, I know what I want under my tree...: My picks for great gifts!

What would you like Santa to leave for you under the tree this year? I know, it leaves you with the look of question marks on you face. Don't worry I have some great ideas that are sure to make your Naughty behavior seem very Nice. This year has been a rough on all of us, so when I started my Christmas shopping the first thing I did was come up with a budget; the next thing I did is go waaaay over it! I'm a lover of Christmas and I can't help but really go ham (crazy) when the season comes in, it's the only time of year when I don't quite feel the sting of life; however, I do feel it in my wallet. So to save you guys from the same pain I've just recently had the pleasure of making an acquaintance with; I've come up with some really great gift ideas that won't, YES! Won't break the bank but still have the potential to be knock out, fabulous gifts.

First,tonight lets leave the children(if you have any) at home and enjoy a romantic dinner for two, weather it be at home or at your favorite eatery make it your business to make this Christmas gift one for the record books. It doesn't have to cost a million dollars to let the person close to you know that they are appreciated, sometimes that is gift enough.

If a budget is what your on, then a romantic evening alone in a HOT bubble bath with your SWEETHEART is the all the gift you need to turn your NICE evening into a NAUGHTY one! With this gift and quick trip to the Dollar Store you can turn your plain Jane bathroom into a romantic spa getaway. Imagination, visual, ambiance is key with this gift, so be sure to color coordinate, have flow, and always make sure a beautiful sent is in the air.

Feeling a little nostalgic? Maybe this trip down memory lane will help you remember why you love Christmas! Watching this Christmas Classic, while cuddling with your honey is a great way to unwind from the liveliness of the day.

      

For the gadget person in your life an IPad case is a great way to protect your device and can also complement your style in a variety of colors, shapes, & sizes. Some of the fabric cases can be embroidered with names or special messages of love or encouragement to remind anyone of how special they are; and what they can achieve. Hope, isn't that what Christmas is all about?

For the music lover in your life Beats by dr. dre is defiantly their dream come true! The sound and clarity of these professional, and studio quality headphones can get you in the groove no matter how hectic your day.

For the man in your heart, Gucci Guilty is a great way to keep him smelling good, being confident, and  most of all trusting in your good taste to know what smells good on him and lights your fire at the same time; so basically its a win win for both of you!

Ladies, I didn't forget about us! I am a woman that LOVES to smell good! I like to smell like a man can eat me right up at the mere passing of me in the office, at home, and anywhere in between; so I know my ladies like the same type of attention. Philosophy products can do that for you with their bubble baths, shower gels, fragrances, and body lotions! You will be supple, and soft while remaining on your best behavior( at least for a little while).

Like I said before, I love to smell good and using Pink Sugar is one of the ways I like to do it! This smell is pretty, with a candy smell that isn't over powering. It can be worn with anything to anything, this sent is a multipurpose sent  that can fit  any occasion.

Sometimes a nice relaxing drink while reminiscing can be the best conversation you ever have with friends or loved ones. Doing this can oddly put things in perspective for you. Also, it can put you in line to face things you would otherwise turn from; and set goal that have been pushed to the back burner of your mind. Taking this time to focus can and will set you on the path of knowing or asking the common question; Whats next?

  Lastly, but certainly not least is LOVE. Giving someone your heart without any stipulation, or conditions is the best gift you could ever give another human being. This gift shouldn't be taken lightly and cherished for as long as possible for it is fragile; even though sometimes it cannot be easily broken it can definitely be wounded. So, please handle it with care!

So, that's my TOP 10 Christmas Picks I hope you like them as much as I do!

Remember your gift don't have to be the most expensive as long as when you give it, its from the heart! If you have anything to add please comment as you see fit.

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Growing up full figured: The Evolution of the big girl

This subject has been on my mind for quite some time. I've had trouble with this all my life. I never knew how effected I was until I started to recognize the patterns in the relationships I had or the choices I made (especially in men!). Honestly, it started with the movie Phat Girls that recently came on tv.  Not that I've never seen the movie before; it's more like I watched it with new eyes. What I saw before was a big girl trying to find love, what I see now is a big girl who once was a little girl with image issues trying to find love in another person instead of finding it within herself. In doing so she uses fat burners, diet pills and drinks; only to be disappointed that no change as occurred. How cliche right? But with all honesty its the truth, how many of us has the same story to tell? I know I do. As a full figured woman, I never thought about why I fight so hard to be heard, taken seriously, or even considered a factor. I now have an idea of why; (this is my opinion) I think its because as a full figured woman we are often pushed in to certain roles in life that don't necessarily fit who we are as people, and because of this we often become mean or bitter, some become desperate, needy, or clingy. These are roles we are stuck  in because those are the roles we see portrayed on tv or in real life; desperate women trying to fit in to a mold that isn't made for wide hips and thick thighs. Growing up I felt the same pressure to fit in, and in some ways I still feel the pressure; but it is a lot less, and I'm more excepting of who I am, and what I will possibly never be. Some ideas we may have of our selves isn't realistic to what our bodies can actually be. This is hard to face, but realism is a must! And I'm not in the habit of lying to anyone especially myself.  

Who do you remember in your growing up that gave a positive image of that a plus size man or woman should be?

Fashion is one way we've stepped out of the box with the stigma created around a sexier woman. In fashion I've found that I was sexy, expressive, desired, and flirtatious (well I'm naturally flirtatious anyway!); but the personality and confidence really comes out when your comfortable with who and what you are. How do you feel when your all done up and sexy?

Recently, being a bigger woman doesn't get the bad press it use to. Now we are the lead actresses, the love interests, as well as the best friends and mothers. We have really made strides in recent years and became the new "it" girls of society, IT TOOK LONG ENOUGH! How have you evolved? Can you approach someone and start a conversation or give a flirtatious eye to a gorgeous man/woman across the room? These are some things that come with growing up & evolving into a you that you want to be without the pressure of society constantly making comments on what you can't be.

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Love & Sex the Plus Size Way: How much is too much to handle?

Hello my beauties! I know this is a fashion blog, but it's named Fashion Plus because every now and again I like to branch out into different arenas that concern the full figured community.

I recently was watching a vlog by one of my favorite vloggers Kimonica, and she brought up some issues I long forgot. The rejection of being a full figured person that always seem to fall into the "friendship zone" of a relationship instead of actually being in a relationship. How do you feel about that? Is having a relationship with a full figured person embarrassing to the people in relationships with them? Or is it just an insecurity that we have to get over? I think that's the question many of us pose when entering into a physical or mental relationship with a potential significant other.

Have you ever been that really cool guy or girl friend that is always there to listen to your friends problems and maybe offer a few kind or words of wisdom? If it ever went pass a casual friendship, how did that make you feel? Did your bond get stronger or did it sour?

The concept of "love" is scary no matter the person that your interested in, but before it gets to that point most of us start off as...yeah you guessed it FRIENDS! On the flip side someone could be interested in a plus size person, but could be embarrassed to be seen with you; honestly I think I've encountered that version a time or two on my life. Thankfully I've never been aware of it until after the fact.

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When I was a teenager I was so brain washed by what society thought beauty was that I never put myself in the category of beautiful. So it was a natural thing for me to be oblivious to someone who liked me; I would just write it off as "just being nice." Later another friend would tell me what happened and I'll never forget what she said. She said" he likes you but he won't talk to you like that because he's afraid of what his boys will think." you would think that was devastating, but it wasn't it's exactly what I expected, so i didn't give it a second thought. And that's sad but true. Have you experienced something similar?

So, in saying that how much is too much for you to handle? And what message are you conveying to the world, think about it.

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Beauty of the Week! Who says beautiful only comes in one size?

Hello Dolls! Now being featured on Fashion Plus for Facebook is The Beauty of The Week! So, every curvy, full figured, or plus size king or queen who wants to show off the beauty that they've been blessed with post up your pictures as many or as little as you want and ONCE a week someone will be selected to wear the CROWN as Beauty of the Week and bragging rights!

When you post up your picture please say what you do or want to do for a living so that can be included in your bragging rights.

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Falling in love with fall: styles we love & the ones we don't

Hello Everybody! Today were going to discuss fall fashion trends among us full figured, voluptuous, sexy because that's just who we are people. Of course when moving from summer into fall some of the best styles summer has to offer will follow suit, that way we will get the best of both seasons.

What do we have to look forward to? Be on the look out for high low shirts and dresses. This look will work for a casual night out or a business chic look. But when applying the high low look be body conscious of what your showing, and how much of it you want to hide. Nothing ruins this looks more than a plus size girl who is going for a chic look and misses because the look doesn't suit her body type. Also, be aware of your environment; some high low outfits are not work appropriate.

The next trend that will blend itself into fall is bright colored leggings or jeans. This trend is going to be incorporated with dark colors and sheer some pieces that can help express your individuality. With this look different is good, but personality is better. And that is what playing with the different colors, and cuts of this style will do.

Other style must haves are some eccentric styles, and sheered colored material tops. These pairings give use a more versatile look. Plus size beauties don't be afraid to step out of the box when it comes to sheer items, just know when to go or it and when to let it go, that will be the difference between being a knockout an getting knocked out; see the difference.

My advice explore all of your options, gone are the days of mixed prints that will make someone dizzy when you walk(almost there are some still lurking around), overly sparkled, shapeless, flowing, or colored clothing designed to hide instead of accentuate all of our angles and curves. Full figured fashion had come a long way from those days, it's a revolution and I for one is going to always be on it's side.

Stay beautiful, sexy, confident, and above all full figured! Until next time always be proud of your progress no matter how far, long, or hard it was to attain it. Love you all! Xoxoxox!

Dating the Voluptuous way: How curvy women should dress for a day or night out on the town!

YES! I'm absolutely going to go there! Dating is hard enough without adding the prep time it takes to get ready for it, but when you also add to the equation being plus sized it takes the "Dating Game" to a new level entirely.

The first date can make or break a possible future relationship, so it's important to identify whether or not your comfortable with this person in a setting were it will be the two of you and no other daters (double dating), or group setting. If you can, find out what type of date your going out on so that dressing for the occasion will be as effortless as possible. Not only will knowing ahead of time give you an edge, but it will also provide you with back up conversation material should you run out of things to talk about. But if your date is cute, articulate, and knowledgeable trust me you should not be lacking in the communication department. But should you find that they're all looks and no substance cut and run ASAP! Because there's nothing worst that a cute DULL date; whose only conversation is about me, myself, & I.

For a casual date: whether it be two people or a group, I would recommend a versatile flowing top maybe a solid color; something not too busy, a slim cute pair of jeans (to show off your shape or your hour glass shape), and a cute flat or booties to complement with limited accessories. It's best to stick to earrings and bangles to draw attention to your face and hands. Go light on the makeup, your date shouldn't be tempted to use a butter knife to chisel the foundation off of your face!

For a lunch date: I suggest to try and be dressy casual. That way you will be prepared for any lunch setting; wether it be in a bistro, a deli, a cafe, or a hot dog in the park; always put your best foot forward. P.S. Wear comfy shoes nothing too over the top that screams expensive & uncomfortable. That way if you two go for a walk you won't be unpleasant because your feet hurt. And we ALL know that when our feet starts to hurt the date or occasion is pretty much over.

For a beach or boardwalk date: Humm?That's a little more playful, so something light and airy would work best on this date. Possible a breathable cotton top, a crop pant or Capri, and a comfy light weight sneaker like Toms or a wedge. Little to no accessories and a light handbag if needed. On a beach date its likely that you will be out in the sun a majority of the time; so light clothing is essential. Also, there are plenty of boardwalk activities to do so wearing pants are a must! This date should be really fun so you can be sure there will be no awkward silences between you. Makeup should be minimal, and sun screen a must.

Now the date I know you've been waiting for the " Dinner Date" : This date is the most important date of all the dates previous. On this date there are no distractions. No friends, activities, or interruptions. This is when you really show who you are, and this is your chance to really WOW your date! When dressing show your personality; be classic but memorable. If wearing something black, be sure that your jewelry & accessories including your shoes stands out and brightens your ensemble. For your make up bring the attention to your eyes and mouth. You should always want to hold the attention there so that during conversation you'll be able to gage their reactions.

Over all, dating when with a great person can be a memorable experience or a disaster waiting to happen; but whatever the outcome please believe that you will be the best part of it! As always stay beautiful, confident, sexy, and full figured!!

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The Oh, I can do that girl!: styles so close they are simililar...Wait! They are exactly the same!

Do you know her?...She knows you...Watches your every move...Until it happens...You know what I'm talking about...She'll wear exactly what you wear! Ahhhh!

Divas! Have any of you been in this awkward situation when someone close to you, or a random person you might have said; hi to, is the exact copy or you? It's strange but it does happen. We full figured women work so hard to establish our own personal styles that every now and then styles cross paths, and that leads to disaster! The worst thing any woman could imagine style wise, is that another woman is wearing the same outfit as them; and even worse IT COULD FIT BETTER! This happen when you have friends and/or associates of similar size (sometimes, not always) that try to out due the other. How can you protect yourself? First, if you have a suspicion that someone you know has a tendency to wear the same item you do, make a conscious effort to not tell them what you want to wear ahead of time; especially to an event. A Diva more inclined to morph into you will most likely try to some how out due you and try to take your individuality away. Second, try not to shop together. I know that's pushing it! Women like to shop together give and give advice or opinions on an outfit choice, but when ATTENTION is on the line best of friends can become the worst of enemies. Have you ever had a friend who told you that you look good in a outfit (I know I have) knowing that you looked a HOT MESS? Yes ladies! The picture is starting to become a little more clearer isn't it? Not everyone is guilty of a crime like this, but lets be real it has happened before and there is nothing wrong with wanting to make an effort to stop the messiness. The next thing you want to do is find something that will stick out about you, like I've said before play up your "talents" so to speak; there is nothing more sexy than a woman with confidence. When you have confidence it shows, when your conscious about things that are troubling you of course that will show as well. If you found yourself in a situation that is uncomfortable remove yourself from it or change the mood to suit your favor. You are too beautiful to ever be in the shadows, go out on a limb and step it up. Try looks that are not the "norm" for you and see how they make you feel. Divas, I don't give advice to things I don't do my self or make an effort to do. I'm just the same as you, a full figured woman trying to find and keep great personal style. By talking with you ladies I have found a comfort in the plus size community that I didn't have growing. Believe me I've made some big mistakes, but it's all a learning process; and I'm learning with you. As always stay beautiful, confident, and full figured!

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Over the top pretty: how far do full figured women have to go to get noticed?

Hello Divas! I'm hear to report to you an alarming trend that occurs among the curvy, voluptuous, women of the world. Ladies, when the weather gets hotter and hotter the clothing starts to come off; and not all of us have to show all the goodies as the heat rises. You guys know what I'm talking about, I'm not the only Diva who's seen other queens letting it all hang out being careless about their sexiness or lack there of flap in the breeze. I've seen things wiggle and jiggle without much effort at all. Have you seen this before? Where is it most common? I wonder; how far do we as full figured women have to go to get noticed when the summer heat rises? This summer lets not have too big breasts in too small tank tops or shorts that can pass as thongs. Ladies, lets keep it Classy not Nasty. If your goal is to get attention from the male perspective; you won't get it by showing them yours first. You'll get it by showing them they have to work for all the goodies you have. Make them look at you and instantly wonder what you would look like without clothes; instead of showing them from the first impression. That will not make you a summer time boo, but instead a late night jump off; and Diva, we do not want that! Let this echo in your mind as you stock up on summer essentials; beauty, pretty, sexy, is not in what you wear; but how you wear it and the confidence you exude. By no means am I telling you to hide behind over sized clothing, shielding your sexiness from the world; but lets be smart about it. In hot weather our counter parts can wear next to nothing and unfortunately we can't follow in their footsteps. So, we have to stay a cut above and take our summer time game to a new level. First, my voluptuous Divas smaller is not better. Try and stay away from clothing that will in some way create friction between yourself and the garment. Nothing is more uncomfortable than the constant rubbing sensation caused by clothing that's too small. Did you ever notice that the tighter the clothes the more you sweat? Second, there is no creature on this earth more beautiful than you! So, please leave the heavy make-up at home. Putting on heavy make-up will suffocate your skin,allow you to sweat more, and most importantly take away from your natural beauty. I say stay fresh with your look use a light moisturizer(tinted if you prefer), maybe a good press powder to eliminate shine that may build up, and a sheer gloss to finish your look. Accessories should complement not overwhelm, but a statement they must make. When you walk in and out of a room you should be the first thing peoples eye catches, and the last thing their mouths talk about when complementing your style. As always stay beautiful, confident, full figured, and above all SEXY! Leave questions, comments, or concerns.   Until next time Divas!

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Sexy, Confident, & Covered up?

Hi Divas! I want to share something with you that I've recently experienced. Recently, I was out shopping for a fashion show I'm attending in the up coming week and while shopping I've noticed that most of the so called spring/summer collections feature clothing that hides our bodies instead of showcasing the best parts. Of course they have pieces that are to die for beautiful, but those are in very short supply, and don't fit all body types. Most of the time you might find sweater like cover ups, & oversized, printed, sparkly tops. Is this fashionable to the full figured woman? To be hidden away under undesirable clothing when weather conditions becomes favorable? I say, NO! I want to be dressed as beautifully the next Diva regardless of size. How can a diva be sexy, confident, and covered up from head to toe in material for fear someone might be offended by our glory. Diva's for the rest of this season it will be my mission to express that full figured Diva's are more than a number on a scale. This spring/summer ladies, dress in the way in which you feel comfortable no matter how uncomfortable the haters are. I can only speak for myself, but I've spent too many years covering myself because I thought that was what I was supposed to do. I don't know how I had this thought in my head, but it was always my "thinking" that I had to hide my legs, thighs, and upper arms because it was considered nasty for a big girl to show these things because they weren't considered "sexy." As I got older I realized that wasn't true; well...not all of it. There is a way to be beautiful, and comfortable without stepping over the line of looking a total mess. First, BODY TYPE!! It plays a crucial role in how you present yourself during the summer. If you haven't already please read the KNOW YOUR PLUSIVITY article that was published before and that may help you to identify the category you should be in. Frequent different venues, ask other Diva's what or whom they're wearing, you never know you might make a friend along the way! As always stay the STRONG, CURVY, or FULL FIGURED DIVAS THAT YOU ALL ARE! Leave any questions, comments, or concerns below. If you have a story you want to share, please feel free to do so. Until next time, xoxo!